when we fall in love - we automatically giv the other person the 'power' to hurt us. at least dats wat i think. anyone can hurt us, but the wound is especially greater if its done to us by someone we love.
if u've been in one - u knw how it is like. u were dependent on ur partner, emotionally. u needed him/her to validate ur feelings, acknowledge ur emotions, and make u happy. u remember how it felt like to be at his/her mercy. and u knw its ur own fault - bcoz ur givin him/her so much power over u. when u broke up, u were strugglin to get used to ur old self, again. u started to rely on urself way more for ur own happiness.
its a great feelin to break free from the power someone has, over u. its really liberating. imagine all those times when u wld cry over somethg others said - whn u wld spend the rest of ur day miserable bcoz u had a fight, or wat about those times when u let him/her dictate how u eld act? imagine how it felt like depending ur happiness on him/her. did it feel good? it made u feel pathetic and alone. and trapped, right? when u givur partners power to hurt u - u giv him/her dis bcoz of ur connection to him/her. u - in turn; hav the power to hurt him/her too - but u dun do it bcoz u love him/her.
soemtimes we hurt the ones we love w/o meaning to - unintentionally. but dis is wat love's all about, aye? its all part of the package. wat we can do is to increase our own self worth, so when the person we love hurts us - its easier to get back up and heal. working towards breakin free of the -ve aspects of a relationship is always a good advice.
yet it doesnt mean dat i am good at it, pun. LOL.